We won’t solve this all at once or simply. Getting angry at each other over single-focus issues is counter-productive and just divides us.
It’s a multi-faceted problem and it requires a multi-faceted solution. It’s a gun access issue, a toxic male culture issue, a child discipline issue, a mental health issue. We need solutions on ALL fronts to make any progress, and people need to stop saying ‘but what about this statistic? This proves it can’t be a ___ issue!’
Life is not simple and solutions to issues like this are not simple. You have to make a step in ALL directions to make a difference.
– Toxic Male Culture – the idea that, in our society, the traits of dominance, devaluation of women, extreme self-reliance, and the suppression of emotions are considered the norm. These men have no outlet for their pain and lash out with anger and violence as that is considered acceptable. It isn’t. We need to change that culture by example and education.
– Child discipline – in the noble pursuit to eliminate abuse and foster confidence, we have removed from child-rearing the idea that actions have consequences. That every child is a winner, and every child deserves everything. Then, when they grow up, they can’t understand why they don’t have all they want and deserve. They are taught no process to deal with that disappointment. We need to teach our children that failure happens and how to deal with it.
– Mental health – Our culture stigmatizes mental health issues and is pulling back on the very necessary funding for care of those issues. Anyone who is different feels they must hide their difference. This then results in an explosion of pain and anger when they can find no reasonable outlet. We need to fund our mental health and educate that it is not a stigma.
– Access to firearms – Yes, easy access to firearms is part of this issue. By requiring background checks (and enforcing them!), licensing and registration, and proving the owner has a basic knowledge on how to operate the gun (just like we do with cars), it can reduce the issues. Yes, other weapons can be used, but reducing those available will help. This would be the ‘well-regulated’ part of the second amendment. We need to pass legislation to make gun ownership a sacred responsibility.
– The craving for fame/copycat – our 24 hour news cycle has created a crop of people that decide they want to be famous, because, as they were taught as children, they deserve it. Those with no other way to become famous decide that killing others is a spectacular way, even if they go down with ‘a blaze of glory’ as part of it. We need to stop spreading the perpetrator’s name everywhere. Instead, honor the victims, not the criminal.
– Wealth inequality – There is a growing gap between our richest and poorest citizens. This results in much lower access to resources for health care, education, housing, and other basic survival necessities. It throws people into a desperation where the only way out seems to be violence. We need to fix our minimum wage to the rate of inflation, make higher education either free or affordable, increase the safety net for the poorest of our people, fix health care (my choice is a single-payer system), and increase taxes on the wealthier citizens. I would also support a shift to Fair Tax.
– Normalization of hatred – Our current leaders have made it acceptable to show blatant hatred, racism, sexism, and other bigotry. We need to make this no longer normal. This hatred creates divides in our societies, in our families, and in our country. This hatred makes people desperate for a solution. We need to punch more nazis and rapists.
(Thanks to Keith Kimball for helping me add points)
Hi Christy – I’ve started a blog last week, weening email links I’ve sent to friends over the years and trying to get them organized. It’s a good way to use my downtime at work…I haven’t commented on the shooting, but if I were to, it would echo yours….
https://zagonostra.wordpress.com/
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You are welcome to share.
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I added Green Dragon to side bar web links…
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Thank you!
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Good post, thanks for sharing. I definitely agree that we need to approach the issue at many different angles.
People love simple answers without gray areas, and the country is so polarized now, this will be a very tough thing to address.
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I really like this, well said.
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Agree whole-heartedly! Lets make successfully treating mental health issues a priority
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And i echo your sentiments that American culutre sets teens as well as adults up for failure without providing the tools to cope with it. Only after accepting that failure is part of life snd not everyone can become President, can we be able to learn a valuable life lesson. By turning failure in personal growth, we can use our energy to create rather than destroy. Thanks again!
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What a wonderful post. Without any doubts, the subject is complex and is promoted due to many reasons. From the other side, the general positive feedback given to violence promote it as a legitimate solution for all the reason written above.
There is many reasons for the frustration and illness of people. The idea that violence is one of the possible reaction to it is in my opinion rooting in a social perception and acceptance.
I’m writing a series of post in the subject I will truly appreciate your opinion. I believe that promoting awareness to those subject is the key to start understanding how to develop better solutions.
https://backtoourselves.org/2018/02/22/violence-cannot-be-fought-with-more-violence-a-fundamental-lesson-for-a-better-future/
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Every day we are bombarded with images and articles about violence via news networks and social media. When we comment on them, we all too often find ourselves being emotionally eviscerated by the excessively hostile replies of those who disagree with us. I can see how this constant exposure to overwhelming toxicity could transform some socially isolated persons into murderous monsters. With no positive social interactions in real life, how could these unfortunate individuals ever see the friendly face of humanity?
Rachel’s Challenge is an anti-bullying program established after the Columbine Shooting. I myself have taken the course and think that it is an extremely effective deterrent to school violence because I have personally witnessed the emotional healing that comes to loners when they are no longer cast out but are welcomed among their peers.
Let’s face it: People who feel loved, wanted, valued, and included do not wake up one morning and decide to kill everyone in sight. People who feel unloved, unwanted, devalued, and excluded sometimes do. How many lives could we save just by being good neighbors to one another again?
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